Why do women and men stay in toxic relationships? What is the purpose of being with someone who depletes you instead of adding value? Relationships do require equal work and commitment from both parties. A relationship’s journey should not drain you nor should it become a burden.
So the first question I posed, why do women and men stay in toxic relationships? Let’s start by defining a toxic relationship. A toxic relationship is one where you are not compatible with the person and as a result you loose who you are as you struggle to become someone your not. You try to become the person that they want you to be instead of being you. You can actually loose yourself identity in a toxic relationship. You allow someone’s opinion to shape you instead of allowing yourself to become whole independently of that person.
Secondly, you have no peace of mind because the relationship depletes all of your energy and does not add any value to you or the relationship. A toxic relationship can be with someone that is bad for you emotionally and physically. It starts with alienating you from your family and friends. This person may not wants to control your every move and know where you are at all times. It becomes tolerable then you just go through the emotions to keep down arguments. It’s not healthy to stay in these types of relationships. Some toxic relationship can lead to your own demise if you don’t walk away from it sooner than later.
What’s is the purpose of staying with someone who depletes you and not adding value? When dating someone, the question is he or she going to add value to me and the relationship should cross your mind. You have to ask yourself are they going to be a taker, a giver, or a combination? This should be a question that one ask themselves by the 2nd date. Don’t you think?
If you are in a toxic relationship, you should evaluate that relationship immediately. God forbid, do not marry the person thinking they will no longer be toxic in your life. Or that you can change them by becoming his wife or her husband. Things will only get worse. Don’t commit to a life with a toxic person. That is not what those wedding vows meant.
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Originally published on Mia’s Relationship Chronicles at http://myadiamonds.blogspot.com/2015/07/why-do-people-stay-in-toxic.html
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